N is for NEEDLES

Hypodermic needles by Intropin

Hypodermic needles by Intropin

Would you like to try some needle play?  How do  you feel about play piercing?  Wanna use my sharps later?  Can I poke you!?  These are all questions you might hear if you’re interested (or you partner is) in having holes put temporarily in your body.  Play piercing is a type of activity some people consider edge play, though I find it remains a pretty common and enjoyable pastime for sadists, masochists, body modifiers, and the simply curious alike.  People who play with needles get a lot of different things out of the activity, let’s explore a little further…

Why needles?  People who talk about why they like play piercing often talk about endorphins.  It’s an activity that tends to release endorphins pretty quickly without a lot of time or focus needed to get things going that way.  Many who are into play piercing also mention how much they value the connection, energy play, or emotional attachments they might experience.  It can be a profound and intense type of play to undergo, a spiritual one, calming, centering, grounding, exciting, orgasmic, frightening, overwhelming, bonding, unexpected, the list goes on.  If you’ve had a part of your body pierced before you have a little idea of what play piercing might be like, if not the concept may seem bizarre or scary.  Regardless, if you’re interested in the experience, I highly recommend trying it out with a trustworthy and experienced partner.

Prep ideas:  You might have already guessed this is an activity that requires a higher degree of safety considerations than some other kink activities.  Among these you will want to consider hygiene, skin prep, needle gauge, number of needles and amount of time it will take to complete the planned task, needle placement according to anatomy and presentation, the sterility of your environment and tools, health risks, appropriate used needle disposal, pain processing techniques, and clear ongoing communication.  Before sticking someone (and possibly yourself) with a sharp object TAKE A CLASS IN THE SUBJECT.  That is the clearest advice I can offer.

Negotiation points to hit:  As you can imagine, negotiation when you are about to be a pin cushion/make someone a pin cushion is import and thoughtfulness, thoroughness, and really great communication are key.  Aftercare is an important point to hit, as are a lot of the general negotiation basics, but there are some points that are specific to needles and blood play that you want to make sure you cover.  Both the poker and pokee should talk about their situations concerning many of these:  know if your partner has any blood borne diseases – what were the last dates and results of any testing they’ve had done, what risk factors apply to their lives?  Ask about other health issues too: diabetes, asthma, hemophilia, medications they may be on like blood thinners, know whether your partner is sober!  This is not a mode of play for the even slightly inebriated for reasons of good judgement, because of a need for clear feedback on sensation, and the higher than average risk of bleeding heavily.  Know if the person has any idea about how they’ll react to being pierced psychologically, emotionally, and physically.  Be able to guide the bottom in breathing techniques and pace play for adequate pain processing.  Make sure that the bottom knows that if they call safe word in the middle of a piercing session that it will still take a little while to undo all the work that’s been done – the situation of the scene will not magically just evaporate in a second, and though the undoing can be done quickly, efficiently, and with regard to a lack of further agony being inflicted, it will still take some time and attention before being fully released.  Make sure you talk about the lasting marks that needles leave.  They will probably not be permanent scars, though there will be marks visible for a few days after play.  These are just some considerations.  I encourage you to do your research and think about more.

My first endorphin button! A lot of fun.

My first endorphin button! A lot of fun.

The holes in my body:  Well, I have a few of them.  Some are designed by nature, others self-imposed.  My first experience with needles was at an event years ago where a local performance artist was pierced with a number of needles on stage during a show I was also performing in.  I was mesmerized and drawn to the piece, and figured right there that I wanted to experience that some day.  I got my chance almost exactly a year ago during my first ever kink scene.  The person I was playing with and I had been playing for about 5 hours that evening and we ended the night with play piercing as our final stop.  I loved it.  You can imagine at that point I was pretty exhausted, but I was also very relaxed.  There was no resistance to the activity and I found myself not only calm, but loving the sensations, surprised that it was as easy as it seemed to be, and definitely struck by endorphins.  One of the things I like most about play piercing is that it is so connected to breath.  To pain process, to fear process, and to pierce evenly and confidently the piercer and the piercee will use breath to guide when to push a needle in or pull one out.  It makes the rhythm of what’s happening a beautiful and connected experience as well as one that leaves you with a feeling of accomplishment…  Before the evening ended I had 13 needles in my right breast arranged into an “endorphin button” – meaning laid over one another so that when it was pushed on it would cause a certain amount of pain which released endorphins.  I had another few sharps piercing my outer labia, a couple laced multiple times through my left breast, and one stuck extremely painfully, half-jokingly, and very briefly into the arch of my foot.  It was a blast and I would repeat the experience without hesitation.  After that session I was absolutely afloat with beautiful fuzzy warm endorphin laced feelings (though after 5 hours of play I don’t know what else I might have been feeling?).  I have a special place in my heart for the activity to say the least.

Where can I learn more?  Good for you!!!  This is definitely a game in kink that you want an experienced and well informed top performing.  It helps to have a well informed bottom in this activity too – don’t shy away from speaking out if you see something play out in an unsafe manner in your scene.  By agreeing to do activities many consider edge play, you should also be agreeing to be more stringent in your technique, communication, and expectations.  I definitely recommend Kink Academy for further education in this subject.  There are a bunch of videos up about safety, negotiation, and what to be thinking about when playing with sharps, as well as videos on how to do it and more on what people feel.  Fetlife is also a great way to find classes on the subject, learn more, and get support from the community of people who love it.  You can’t do enough reading, writing, and sticking oranges in your pursuit of the perfect prick…  and at some point getting really great about your negotiation methods and jumping in is the only way to get the experience and confidence you need to be a great play piercer/needle aficionado/sharps wielder!  Good luck sticking it to the bottom; I hope everyone gets what they came in for.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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~Thank you.

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L is for LOVE of LATEX (Happy Valentines Day from the road Dear Readers!)

people talk

about my image

like I come in two dimensions

like lipstick is the sign of my declining mind

like what I happen to be wearing

is my new statement for all of womankind

I wish they could see us now

in leather bras and rubber shorts

like some ridiculous new team uniform

for some ridiculous new sport

quick someone call the girl police

and file a report…

“little plastic castle” by Ani Difranco

Photo by Balzac

Photo by Balzac

You know it when you smell it, when you see it, and when you feel it.  One of the most sexualized and sensualized materials of our age:  Rubber Latex.  This material is famous for shaping bodies and dripping across the pages of fetish ball fliers…  It can be made into fetish clothing, accouterment, props; condoms, dental dams, and gloves turn this material into a safer sex barriers and orgy quick-cleaner-uppers, it is widely used as a cheaper alternative to silicone in your sex toys, you’ll find it in your mattress, and for your messier activities you can buy rubber sheets…

Latex fashion is one of the two iconic Ls in kink (I bet you can guess the other):  I cannot tell you how many times people have explained to me that the difference between kink and fetish events is the fashion quotient.

"Rubbers". Photo by Rept0n1x

“Rubbers”. Photo by Rept0n1x

By fashion I mean Rubber Balls and other events where people are dressed to the nines sporting exotic, imaginative, creative, other worldly, sexy, cartoonish, and wonderful costumes made from the stuff.  If you’re dressing in the stuff, don’t leave home without your cornstarch because getting into a skintight latex skirt/dress/shorts/anything is a feat in itself…  Oh, but when the material is finally pulled into place!  There is no compare to how your curves will look and feel.  Enjoy these pictures (I know I do)!

Sexy barrier use:  Clothing certainly fits in this category as well, as you can have someone rub up against you and get their juices all over it, you can dabble in water sports, or other fluid encouraging activities, and as long as the latex remains unpunctured or torn, it is a non-porous material which will keep the people on opposite sides of the material safe from one another’s wet works.  Not to mention it’s easy to clean.  Of course, when one thinks of rubber barriers, they usually think condoms, dams, and gloves: the objects responsible for most of the world’s current safer sex practices.  As latex can be made into a thin non-porous surface, when used properly it is an excellent material for guarding against pregnancy and/or STI transmission during various risky sexual activities.  May I add that barrier methods are also great for quick clean up in your sexual encounters:  imagine having a couple condoms on that toy you’d like to use during your threesome, or multiple gloves covering your hands while penetrating someone in the back and front – just strip off the top layer and you’re good to go again in seconds flat.  Even if you just opt to put a new layer on after each happy indiscretion, you’re not risking cooling down the action to the tune of multiple hand and toy washes…  think about the possibilities!

Lubes:  The number one thing you want to think about when playing with any kind of rubber latex is that it is going to dissolve when it comes in contact with oil.  Do not use olive oil, baby oil, or any other oils as lubricant when you’re using latex barriers or toys, or you’ll find you’ve just foiled (or ruined) your tools for the evening.  However, not all is lost, water and silicone based products are just fine with condoms, dams, gloves, toys, and other latex toybag and closet items.

Warnings:  Some people are very allergic to latex, and it is an allergy that can be developed over time.  If you are having sensitivities to latex at all, take them seriously and either self limit your exposure to the material, or get tested to positively affirm your allergy.  If you have a severe reaction when you come into contact with the stuff, discontinue use immediately and get to a hospital.  Latex allergies can be serious, they  can lead to anaphylactic shock and in some cases death.  As the number of people who are sensitive to this material rise, there are increasingly better and more accessible alternatives to it.  For condoms, the use of polyurethane has become more popular, and you can sometimes find “latex free” condoms at drugstores. Most sexuality stores should carry them too (my favorite are SKYN from Lifestyles).  Sheep skin can be substituted as well, though note that while sheep skin condoms are designed to help avoid pregnancy they are not designed to help avoid STIs, please consider that fact when opting to use them.  Nitrile gloves are a popular alternative to latex gloves, and come in several colors and styles.

My hand encased in latex

My hand encased in latex

What I got to do:  I was at a kink party one day a while back, and met someone who had created a version of a vacuform bed.  It looked like a rectangular box 5’ tall, 3’ wide, and about 2’ deep (by my guesstimate).  The box structure was made from PVC piping, and was covered completely in sheet latex.  To get inside you crawled through a tightly stretched opening flap in the bottom of the cube, and then, once you were standing inside, you stuck your head out through a slit in the top that stretched airtight around your neck.  At a corner of the cube was a vacuum hose attached to a shop vac that would suction the air out of the airtight cube, which then sucked the latex sheeting tight around your body, trapping/suspending you in the middle of the structure.  It was a really incredible feeling.  It felt like being hugged all over at once.  I loved it.  You kinda ended up looking like Han Solo frozen in carbonite…

What was really fun about this person sized toy was that then you could be tipped over in the structure, and you would just jiggle there, suspended in the center.  People slapped, spanked, and bounced my suspended body.  The sensations were really fun and I had no control whatsoever physically over what happened to me, as my arms and legs were trapped inside.  Latex transmits sensation and temperature pretty realistically; someone had brought a cup of ice water with them and poured it on my back as I was stuck in this contraption, and it felt as though someone had poured it directly on my skin.  The temperature, the wetness, the sliding around of the ice cubes, I could have sworn I was wet.  Pretty wild.

So, rubber latex!  It comes from a plant or can be synthetically derived and can be turned into a million useful, lifesaving, sexy, playful, and intriguing things!  If I could afford the fashion, you bet I’d sport it pretty regularly.  Let me know if you have an interest/opinion/tips/stories/pictures you’d like to share from your own brush with the sexy material.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

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Puppetry Takes Over Schedule…

ABC Screenshot CropHello wonderful readers!  Since last we “ABC’d is for…” a LOT has taken place.  Little (or perhaps not) known fact:  I perform as a professional storyteller and puppeteer at times.  I have, in fact, toured the country as such and owned my very own major-award-nominated puppet company.

To make a short story shorter, I am going out on a three month tour as a puppeteer, and the date I leave is (drum roll please!):  TOMORROW!

Wish me well, my friends.  I shall not, lovely creatures, leave you in the dust, no.  Not at all.  My writing will still be published from the road.  Unfortunately this week, as the puppeting opportunity came up mere days ago and I’ve been scrambling to meet deadlines and learn script lines and other such nonsense, I shall be asking you to tune back in on Monday for the blog in general, and wait until next Friday for “L is for…”.

Thank you for bearing with me, and I’ll see you soon from the road!

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

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