The People I Meet: Balin

November 13, 2013 by

Today’s entry is a couple of short stories written by someone I met randomly one day.  I was working on this blog and they asked what I was writing.  Being the very out person I am (even with strangers), I answered that I write a kink blog and was working on entries for that.  We got into an interesting conversation on the subject, and I offered that if he wanted to write anything for the blog I was taking submissions.  Soon after I was presented with these two stories.  I hope you enjoy this stranger’s thoughts on kink, sex, and (just a little bit) me!

To Breathe and Being,
~ Karin

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Balin the Virgin

written by Anonymous

Gauguin's "Death of a Virgin"

Gauguin’s “Death of a Virgin”

Balin is a 35 year-old Virgin. He has a birthday coming up… but does not plan on losing his virginity before this auspicious date. Or on it. He doubts it will ever happen for him. Most likely it started out as a religious thing, fire and brimstone, thought of himself as a good kid, wanted to do the right thing, afraid to upset anyone, afraid of intimacy.

He might be wrong.

Maybe he’s not a virgin.

Do fingers count? Are they so different from penis? What about not so dry humping? Sarah was in her panties and Balin in his boxers. She was flooding. He was like, this is surely just as unsafe… for him… as unsafe sex.

“I’m so wet,” she said.

His penis rubbed the mystical boundary between her pussy lips. Did this not count as sex because of the thin layer of fabric between their parts? Her panties had come off. Maybe he’s not a virgin.

I am. He maintains. To not be a virgin one full insertion is required.

Though it’s hard for him to justify why this particular insertion should command such mystical significance. However, it does. It has defined his life, the impossibility of fully encountering someone, the punishment for so doing.

“Everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28

If that’s true, Balin is definitely not a virgin.

Digital versus penile. Photon versus penile. Digital versus photon. Ogres have layers. Onions have layers. What if you close your eyes and breathe on it? The line where Sarah begins and Balin ends feels arbitrary when postulating virginity and making it your life story.

This is my life story.

I am Balin.

How deep can I go?

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Balin and Porn

written by Anonymous

Ever since his lap top died, last April, Balin had not seen porn. Not that he didn’t try to find it on his iPad. However the sites he had become accustomed to visiting did not seem to work, and he had found no alternatives.

Without porn available, Balin turned to YouTube for aid on his quest to get off.

Ironically this censored environment opened up a world of fetish that Balin might not have otherwise discovered. Before he had been mostly satisfied with traditional porn, though had also glimpsed bondage and machine sex scenes. On YouTube he discovered JOI, CEI, oily dance, POV hand jobs by sudsy Japanese girls in bathtubs, balloon fetish, foot fetish, stocking fetish, sucking bananas, sucking lollipops, teens who could not possibly be 18 dancing in their underwear, cleavage in bouncing cars, nipple slips, and people imitating the sex act with their own belly fat or other objects that once he realized were not actual cocks and pussies became insulting. Not to mention international car show go-go girls, dominatrices demanding tribute, and hot girls who turn out to be men… always alarming for the mildly homophobic (when it came to his own position on the spectrum) Balin.

All this ended for him last night, when he discovered free porn sites once again open to him on his iPad. Not just the thirty second clips to which he had become accustomed, but full twenty-five minute episodes of his favorite porn star, Lucy Lee, in her first ever sex scene and her first ever anal scene. He was saddened to learn of her recent car accident and the time she spent in jail for drunk driving. However, after some time, all that repetitive thrusting became boring.

Instead he found the kinkiest, uncensored JOI he head ever seen.

After his extended hiatus into the perversions of YouTube, Balin returns to the less restricted world of XXX armed with new genres to explore. Thus his continued virginity seems assured… and more twisted than ever… in a form far from the purity and innocence with which virginity is often ascribed.

Balin daydreams wistfully, that UnAmerika’s Sweetheart Karin Webb mourns his isolated and marginalized existence and raises her fist at porn. Nevertheless, cowardly twisted Balin locks himself away, alone, deep in his lair in Moria. A narrow shaft of iPad light his only connection to the outside world of kink and fetish that other people share and could await him too. Might Karin find a way to reach him there?

This is my life story.

I am Balin.

How deep can I go?

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Please write in to share your own thoughts and connections on kink by either filling out the comment form below or emailing me directly at: Karin@ABCsOfKink.com

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~Thank you.

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Survey Questions

November 6, 2013 by

I am a curious kitten, dear Public, always interested in how people think differently about various topics.  Maybe it’s the character actor in me, or the peacekeeper, maybe it’s just the way I’m wired – with an appreciation of people’s differences and desire to be exposed to new ideas…  In light of my kittenishness today I’ve decided I will throw some questions out TO YOU with the hope that responses will come back to me in surprising, ticklish, and challenging ways.

Either for yourself or for response (if you’re so inclined), I challenge you to take a moment to think about some of the answers you have to the questions below.  If you like, write them down and send your responses to me: Karin@ABCsOfKink.com or go to my Contact Page where you can fill out the comment form anonymously (or not – you choose).

Please take note:  Any content I receive that I think would be great to host on the blog will posted anonymous unless you specifically request it not to be and provide your credit information and links to include in the posting.  I look forward to hearing what  YOU think about the subject of kink, here goes!

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Survey Questions!

I suggest picking three, and feel free to get in as much depth as you like:

  • Curious Kitten KarinAre you kinky?
  • Are you interested in kink?
  • Are you experienced in kink?
  • If you’re kinky, at what point did you come out to yourself as such and why?
  • What was your first exposure to kink?
  • Can you define what kink is to you?
  • Are kink and sex the same or different in your experience?
  • Is kink an activity or an identity?
  • What is your favorite kink?
  • Do you have family members who are kinky?
  • What is the line between “vanilla” and “kink” to you?
  • What questions do you have about kink?

I look forward to hearing your answers!

To Breath and Being
~ Karin

If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

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The Fine Art of Kink

October 30, 2013 by

Wednesday’s blog is fully entitled: “Perspectives on Kink: Conversations with the Community”.  I want to have a space where the varied ideas of the larger community can hang out and mingle – to talk about kink from personal and diverse perspectives.  I’ll be publishing material here covering anything from advice column type writing (send me your questions), to actual conversations I’ve had with people regarding kink, I’ll have guest writers, interviews, hit-the-street-surveys, and opinion polls…  Wednesday is a day to think about things from a more personal or interactive point of view.  If you want to get involved or submit your writing, please email me at: Karin@ABCsOfKink.com.  I look forward to your thoughts and questions.

And now WEEK ONE:  Below is a reflection by a friend of mine, and also the person who captured Monday’s mud photos.  Michael Terracciano is a comic book writer, photographer,  friend, and passionate stargazer.  I highly recommend checking out his previous webcomic, “Dominic Deegan: Oracle for Hire” and his current one, “Star Power” – should you like comics by interesting, funny, and thoughtful writers.  For ABCs though, he pens about his first kink: Erotic Photography.  I hope you enjoy his perspective, I know I did…  and see you on Friday for the letter A!

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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Written by Michael Terracciano

My first pornography was fine art photography.

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My grandfather worked for a photography magazine called U.S. Camera. Every year they would publish a hardcover annual, collecting that year’s best photographs taken by masters of the craft. There were numerous nudes throughout the collections.

When I was a boy, discovering myself sexually, I found these collected volumes in my parents’ house. They weren’t hidden away in some vault. They were in a cabinet in the living room. A cabinet I had passed by for years because it was full of seemingly uninteresting books. But one day I decided to open the door and start flipping through the books.

That’s when I discovered the nudes.

These were among the year’s best photographs taken by masters of the craft. So while I found myself enjoying the thrill of looking at naked bodies, I was also discovering the artwork of form, texture, lighting, composition, and sometimes storytelling. How to best accentuate the curves and lines of the female form.

Photo by Andre de Dienes, a favorite photographer discovered in U.S. Camera. Photo found on LeClownLyrique blog

Photo by Andre de Dienes, a favorite photographer discovered in U.S. Camera. Photo found at LeClownLyrique

How to best draw the eye where you want it to roam. How to present the contrasting texture of naked skin against rippling water, the aged bark of trees, bustling fabrics, cold stone, or anything else. Close-ups of breasts and buttocks became landscapes of imagery to explore. The entire experience ignited my imagination.

Eventually, as many growing boys did back then, I got my hands on my first nudie magazine. I was excited, as growing boys are, by endless images of nude women doing all sorts of sexual and sensual things. I still remember my first thought when I cracked open those pages.

“What. Is. This. BULLSHIT?!”

I didn’t realize how spoiled I’d become until I found myself looking at cheap photographs that had no thought of composition, lighting, texture, et cetera. It was just close-ups of tits and ass with nothing more to offer than that. Now, I understand that when you’re trying to get off, you’re not really concerned with all that much presentation. But I came to realize that, for me, it was the presentation that really mattered.

I didn’t want porn. I wanted art.

Did this mean that fine art photography had become my pornography? That the most fulfilling photographs, sexually or artistically, had to live up to the highest standards presented to me by the masters of the craft in those collections? If the answer is “yes,” then I’ll proudly call myself a snob, because a finely produced photograph makes the photographer look good and, more importantly, the subject look like a goddess.

"Drawn to You" photo by Michael Terracciano

“Drawn to You” photo by Michael Terracciano

Nowadays I’m privileged to have the opportunity to photograph the beautiful women of the Boston burlesque scene. Whenever I’m involved in a shoot with them, I try to live up to the highest standards of those past masters. If I’m doing my job right, they’ll look like goddesses and I’ll be paying tribute to my “teachers.”

And maybe, somewhere, I’ll be setting a similar standard for someone else.

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You can follow Michael Terracciano at his current webcomic, “Star Power” or browse his previous work, “Dominic Deegan: Oracle for Hire“

If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

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