Z is for ZENTAI

Zentai 4I am lucky enough to have a friend whose fetish is Zentai.  She has a whole bunch of suits and was awesome enough to ask me to join her for a journey through some “Z”.  It’s funny, but with Zentai, as many people who have asked me “what’s that” when I mention it, those in the know are like “ooohhhh, Zentai, huh?!”.  And it is something funnily endearing.  When you know Zentai, it’s worthy of a friendly nod and smile of approval…

So, what IS Zentai?  Zentai is a word from the Japanese language meaning “skin tight garment” or “full body stocking”.  Zentai suits are the full body stretchy suits worn by film actors to animate monster characters mastered by green screen graphic effect artists in the movies.  Zentai suits cover the full body including stocking feet, gloved hands, and a full head mask.  Everything is covered.  You can get them with various alterations including gloveless or footless, mask-less, or you can have your mask altered to include eyeholes, a mouth hole, nose holes, etc.  Some are even crotchless or have holes for easy breast play access.  You can see through the tight material, though not incredibly well, and though they do get pretty hot, you can breathe in them just fine.  Zentai suits are also worn by dancers, actors who are working in “neutral mask”, cosplayers, weirdo performance artists, fetishists, and the occasional superhero.

Zentai 8Where to get your very own:  Milanoo.com is a great place to look for Zentai suits, just check out their costume section’s “zentai/catsuits” listings.  For around $20-$50 you can get a basic one-size-fits-all suit that’s good to go and you’ll look great in it.  If you like, you can spend closer to $230+ and own their Stylish Multi Color Unisex Trendy Latex (Lobster Person) suit, or a plethora of other blow-up latex creature suits!  The limitations of the imagination are your only stopping points on this ride, so have fun looking around and seeing what’s out there.

Zentai 14My Zentai:  My first experience with Zentai was extremely fun.  I went over to my friend’s house, we suited up, and then spent some time cuddling and playing.  Later on we went over to a clothing optional yoga class another friend was teaching (who we’d cleared our zentai-ness with in advance), and did a full 90 minutes of blind yoga.  It was quite the evening.

Zentai takes away or diminishes the senses at the same time as it warps them.  You can see through the mask, but not well.  You can feel through the gloved fingers, but differently from usual.  You can breath, but it’s hot and through cloth.  You can’t eat or drink, needing to use the bathroom is an ordeal, and your body is slippery.  Crane pose is near impossible.  To others you are a blank slate.  It can really freak people out to hear your voice or feel you around them but look into your face and see a blank faceless canvas.  Body language becomes pronounced as a form of communication, and it’s impossible to non-verbally communicate the details on your mind – you cannot express your thoughts with a look.

But the world is smaller.  Emotions are clearer and sometimes more consuming.  Imagination can run away with you, the room you are in can melt away.  Like with hoods, I find myself becoming smaller inside.  I feel little and slow and soft.  I just want to curl up like a kitten and caress the face and body of the people near me,  I want to be stroked and pet and cared for.  There is a body awareness to being in a bodysuit too.  Stretching feels amazing, feeling your own body sleek and smooth and round and muscled and bony and fat is a bit of a wonderland.  I loved running my fingers across my own curves, they felt foreign and exciting, and my own touch felt different too.  It was easy to be turned on, to just want to rub up against those closest to me.

I think Zentai suits as a fetish, kink, or bondage apparatus are sublime.  I look forward to playing again.  I think they would be good for objectification – both for the top demanding the wearer to act as a faceless toy/furniture/plaything, and for the wearer to have the enclosed space and sensory limitations to focus on a job easily and deeply.  Perhaps that shall be my next adventure…  Here’s to yours, happy hunting.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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One More Week

and we’re done with the ABCs of Kink’s first full alphabet tour.  This week I am waiting on a date with a particular “Z”, so will be back next week with a full report!  In the meantime, please message me here [Karin (at) ABCsOfKink . com] with ideas for the next round of A-Zs.  I’d love some suggestions.

Here’s some fun stuff to look at in the meantime, a few of my favorites from this past series:

Playing with a Sadist who was one of the fiercest (and most fun) people I've played with... look closely and you can see the beginnings of the boot marks that will be black and purples the following day

R is for ROUGH BODY PLAY

Photo by M

O is for ORGASM CONTROL

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M is for MUMMIFICATION

The spoils of war are sweet indeed. Intoxicating.

D is for DEATH PLAY

Spreader bars and wrist cuffs!

B is for BONDAGE

Any articles you liked in particular?  Let me know all your thoughts by writing me here: Karin (at) ABCsOfKink . com

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

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Y is for YOU

A perfect weekday afternoon!

A perfect weekday afternoon!

We’re close to our final entry in this round of the alphabet, and so I thought it important to send along some resources that should help you think about YOU!  It’s great to know you want something kinky to happen between you and your partners, but it’s even better to know exactly what you want those things to be before playing.  This helps a lot when it comes time to negotiate with your partners about play, and it’s also an interesting way to keep an eye on how you yourself are evolving over time in the realm of kinky experiences…

The CEPE checklist:  The CEPE checklist is an excellent way to gather your thoughts about kink. It is a 200 question BDSM checklist that asks you to rate your interest in various activities.  It is often used by D-types who are trying to get to know their s-types better.  After this paperwork has been completed, a quick glance at it can tell the person who is looking what types of activities you are into, not into, have as hard limits, as well as what activities you are experienced in, are a novice at, or have never tried out, and which activities you may prefer to top, bottom, or switch for.  It takes a little bit of time to finish, but I think it is well worth the effort for people who are interested in having a clear place to start negotiations from.

I recommend all you interested-in-kink types look this checklist over and have a go at putting down on paper what works.  I think it’s an incredibly good exercise not just for the outcome of clear talking points, but it’s an interesting way to meditate on kink – on what excites you, what does not, and what you might be curious about.  The first time I did it I had the experience of realizing that a few of the options on the card I had never really considered before, so it became an inspirational tool to my dirty mind too.

[Update July 2019: I have developed my own BDSM Checklist, here’s a link to download mine if you’d like to use it]

The final moment of my "Pink" performance at "Glitterotica". Photo by www.KristenMariePhoto.com

The final moment of my “Pink” performance at “Glitterotica”. Photo by www.KristenMariePhoto.com

Games you can play:  If you have a partner, here’s one of my favorite games to play…  I call it “Red, Yellow, Green”, and I learned it from Carol Queen (one of my favorite people in the sexuality industry) a number of years ago when she was leading a workshop at the sexuality boutique I worked at.  It goes like this:

  • With your partner(s), make a list of all of the sexual/kinky/fantasy things you can think of.  Don’t be shy, say them all – from the most vanilla to the most radical!
  • Take a look of this list and each of you rate the activities Red, Yellow, or Green (it’s perfectly ok if you have different ratings than one another).  Red indicates a “hard limit”, meaning something you don’t have any interest in doing at all.  Yellow indicates a “soft limit”, or something you are curious about but have never tried before and are a little nervous about, something you’re willing to try but not that interested in, or something you will do or have done but don’t really get turned on by the idea of.  Green is for go, the activities you are excited about, that turn you on, or that you’d actively like to try out.
  • Now for the fun part!!!  It is time for you and your partner(s) to start playing.  Yes, I mean getting turned on.  Play with one another until you can feel the juices flowing and the sexy filling your veins…  Now pause and take a look at the list again.  Go through and re-rate everything.  Has anything changed?  Did some yellows turn green?  Are some of your reds not quite so red anymore?  You don’t have to talk about it yet because…
  • Start back in on the sexiness!  This time work up a good sweat and stop just before you want to come/finish/explode/hit the subspace/domspace/roof/whathaveyou…  Take a look at those ratings again and update anything that needs to be updated.  Don’t worry about processing any of it yet though, because…
  • Back to the sexy!  This time ravage through the end.  Just after falling into a heaping pile of post-whatever mush, look at that list and re-rate the things.
  • Now to talk about it with one another…  I hope you had a really enjoyable time.

I like this exercise a lot because it gives one an indication of how being turned on might change their feelings about a  scene or an activity.  I think this is really important information to have when negotiating.  There is a general consensus in kinky play that you never re-negotiate a scene or boundaries mid-play.  The reason for this is that being turned on will mess with your brains and your conscious understanding of what is and is not good for you.  To avoid a negative lash-back post play, it’s important to know what kinds of things look good to you when you’re not completely sexually sober.  Think about them; decide whether the activities that became more acceptable to you are actually things you are interested in exploring or not.  This list will probably also help you figure out what will never be a turn on…

Nipple Clamps for HomeworkMy experiences meditating on me:  I have been described by a former lover as a “connection whore”.  I’m pretty sure he was on to something, and I’ve enjoyed the phrase since hearing it.  This means that when I’m connecting with someone I am much more open to them and their desires than I am when our connection is thin or nonexistent.  I think this is true to a degree for most people, though I seem to take it farther and faster than many.  My ability to say no, and my desire to say yes to the person I am connecting with can be a HUGE block to my rational brain – think stereotypical brainless dude aware only of his hard on and willing to do pretty much anything to get his dick wet…  that’s kinda me in those moments.  Because of this one of the things I let people know upfront when I’m negotiating a scene with them, is that if I’m feeling really connected to them during the scene, and I am really turned on, I will probably say yes to anything they ask.  This is not to say that I won’t stand behind my actions, but to let my partner know that if they want to change any of the rules we’ve pre-negotiated or try something we haven’t talked about, that I may in fact say yes to something I’ll regret saying yes to.  So, I ask my partners to please respect the boundaries that we establish before getting all worked up.  This is another reason I always make sure to negotiate sexual boundaries before entering into a kink scene too.  I generally don’t mix my kink and sex, and that’s a can of worms I don’t want to deal with the fallout of if someone were to be as turned on as I, and wonder if we could enter that arena during play.  This is one of the major ways I respect myself, and teach my partners a little bit about what to expect.

When I filled out the CEPE checklist for the first time, I realized that there were things on there I had never considered kink activities.  It was awesome!  It made me think about the possibilities beyond my current fantasies.  I LOVE learning new things (definitely a fetish of mine), so even just filling out that worksheet was a huge turn on.

I am currently developing a game for people interested in kink, BDSM, adventurous sex, and expanding their sensual horizons with partners…  hopefully next time I post a “Y is for YOU” entry, I’ll be able to share it with you.

Dinner anyone? An example of my homework for the evening...

Dinner anyone? An example of my homework for the evening…

For further education, ideas, and kinky eye openers:

  • the Kink Academy – a wonderful resource for videos, a wealth of informational blog writings, and just a great place to be.  If you do check out this site and decide you’d like to sign up for a membership, please link to the site through one of my links.  I am an affiliate, so if you link to them through me when you make your purchase, I’ll receive a commission off your membership as a thank you for introducing you to the site.  It’s a great way to support this site.
  • Fetlife – go to munches to meet the kinky people nearby, learn about various subjects by reading people’s ideas in groups, and find out what’s happening in your area
  • NELA – They host the Fetish Flea convention and have their hands in a lot of the kinky goings on in New England.  There should be associations like this one in many regions, if you’re not from around here, look around for yours.

I encourage you to make it personal today.  Your interests, boundaries, and pleasure matter every bit as much as your partner’s regardless of your level of experience, gender, age, role in the activity, or anything else.  In the end only you can know yourself well enough to advocate and negotiate in ways that make you happiest.  Have fun, and have fun figuring it all out!

To Breath and Being,

~ Karin

If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

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Be an ABCs contributor:  Have a story or perspective to share about kink or want to promote a kinky event?  Email Karin directly at: Karin@ABCsOfKink.com or fill out the as-anonymous-as-you-want-it-to-be feedback form below and you could see your writing published as a part of Wednesday’s “Perspectives on Kink: Conversations with the Community” blog on this site.  Don’t know what to write about?  Consider answering some of the Survey Questions I posted recently.  Happy writing, and thanks!

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