Tethered Together

Yesterday I attended Tethered Together, a new rope convention in New England. It includes dungeon space, BDSM venders, stellar workshops and presenters, an art show, performances, and it was rope, kink, and circus themed! Tethered Together stepped up to fill the rope enthusiast’s hole left when Bound in Boston closed shop last year, and is engineered by two wonderful women, Skyla and Ozma.

I love that this con is majorly authored and run by women, and it shows its queerness in spades. It had the warm family feel of a Bound in Boston event, but was also different. I saw many familiar faces and a lot of new ones. It seemed there was a more diverse group of people in attendance than I’ve seen at most New England kinky cons, which was awesome. They offered a wide variety of classes and spaces to learn, practice, and play such as:

  • circus arts classes
  • body movement practices
  • sex magick
  • yoga
  • CBT and micro-bondage
  • rope games
  • the traditional suspension-related faire
  • tips from sadistic to sensual fun
  • forming relationship through rope ideas…

I loved attending a more practical class too, on how to host a sex party, and there was sooooo much more that I missed out on!

I was only able to attend for a day this time, but it’s a three day event with dungeon space open each evening—and the dungeon spaces were wonderful. I enjoyed Tethered Togethers’ attention to lighting and mood. They set up an abundance of structures for suspension, and also furniture for different types of play like a chain wall, massage tables, and spanking benches. All of that was laid out in one huge room, and there were spaces to play out in the open around the conference space. This team did an incredible job of making the hotel feel friendly, sexy, inviting, fun, playful, safe, and interesting. I have no bad things to say other than not all classroom spaces are created equal (but that’s on the hotel, not the conference itself). In fact, having been to a number of cons at this particular hotel, I enjoyed this set up the most in terms of finding everything, accessibility, and the opportunity to just plop down somewhere and chill in the middle of a long day of learning and play.

I’m really look forward to getting myself out for the full weekend next time their event comes to town—hopefully next time I’ll even have time to get involved. To the Tethered Together team I say, Congratulations! You made something wonderful and I can’t wait to experience your thoughtful and sexy space again.

Play On My Friends,
~ Creature

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Terrain of Change

So far this week I feel like I’m winning at being the femmeboy creature I am. I attended a “Drag Brunch” on Sunday. It was fun, and inspired me to spend some time playing with makeup that day. It’s been a while, and I forget I enjoy playing in “painting your face” mediums of expression. Usually when I crack open my make-up kit I’m creating a face for a character, and I don’t think to just play on my own making pretty or interesting things happen on this Creature/Karin-shaped canvas day to day.

This week my chin hairs have been sprouting more fully and my mustache has been darkening. I was a day late taking my shot this past T cycle. It seems as though when I wait longer between shots or take a slightly lower dose than usual my hair sprouts a little more aggressively. Counter intuitive it seems, doesn’t it?

This (less surprisingly) is an inverse of what happens to my clitoris. The higher the dose of Testosterone I take the more my clit grows, gets hard throughout my cycle, seems present on my body throughout the day, and my average daily desire for sexual intercourse seems to go up.

Interestingly, on slightly lower doses of T my desire for BDSM or creative sensual connection seems more present than specifically sexual desire (as in intercourse).

I wonder if I’m the only one like this, if I’m an outlier for noticing things to this level of specificity, or if because I’m not bleeding anymore (due to taking Testosterone injections) that these reactions are actually layered over a monthly hormonal cycle I’ve lost track of? Other T takers: have you noticed similar or different effects?

Tiny locks for tiny chastity cages… One of my favorite sadistic activities is a combination of CBT and orgasm control.

I wish I was a part of a medical study. I’d like to be contributing to the better understanding of what taking Testosterone shots does to AFAB bodies.

Regardless, enjoy the photos! I have a lot of intrigues running through my mind these days. I need more people with whom I can play and express all the different parts of me that run through my imagination. There is a fear that holds me back from putting myself more fully out there on dating sites and such — the fear that I’m too masculine for those who like femmes, and too feminine for those who like masculinity, too trans for people who don’t understand non-binary gender, or not trans enough for those who have an idea of what trans looks like… Silly, I know, because at the end of the day my entire journey is about feeling more like me so that I can ultimately feel more comfortable around others in general. Desire is a rock and a hard place sandwiched between the judges in my head. At least Bound in Boston is happening this weekend, so I’ll get to blow off some steam while throwing rope with friendly strangers!

Play On My Friends,
~ Creature

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Kink List 2014

As we close out the first Month of 2014 I wanted to share some of the Kinky New Year Resolutions I received from people recently:

  • Create kinky art through painting/drawing
  • Have another safe 6 person orgy with my Rhode Island friends!
  • More rope bondage and how to effectively/safely apply it in scenes and sexual encounters with my partner
  • Become more comfortable with dealing pain
  • Get better at negotiations and role playing within scenes
  • Use more toys on my partner
  • Better appreciate and support my partner’s submissive side  while I continue to grow in confidence and be more loving, nurturing, caring, and Dominant
  • 2014 will be my year of butt sex (and skip to 1:00 for:  ROBOT BUTT? — Mind Blow #42)
  • Learn more about my submissive identity
  • Wax play (gotta find a good space)
  • Go to Fetishcon 2014 in Tampa, FL this year as a photographer instead of a model
  • Attend the Fetish Flea for the 1st time
  • Attend a Bound in Boston play party with my fiance
  • Go to less Sinomatic/Jaded events (feeling too old now)
  • Orgasm from breath control alone
  • Conquer my fear of certain fetish gear items
  • Chastity play
  • Go to my first kink party
  • Find a fisting partner
  • Start *doing* kink (because now I’m tied down to someone I like!)
  • Find a third partner
  • Incorporate bondage into sex
  • Tickling
  • Finish making that strap-on harness out of the materials I’ve been collecting so I can finally fuck people with it

Thank you contributors, what a lovely gorgeous naughty list!  While I hope you’re never too old to play well with others, it looks like there are a lot of different events and opportunities people have to play, learn, and experiment at this year.  And wherever you are, the Kink Fairy blesses you to go out and make it happen.  This list has given me some ideas too; I hope, Dear Readers, that all this talk of Kinky fun inspires your own desires.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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