I have been engaged in various forms of training submissive types for the past 3 years. How training goes is specific to every trainee. I have my own interests, of course, so there are particular lessons everyone learns and experiences most everyone is subject to (within negotiated consent boundaries, of course). An emphasis in my teaching though, is to connect with those areas an individual sub needs help with in order to meaningfully gain the skills they require to serve Me skillfully, pridefully, and with heart.
With heart. Teaching to the heart and spirit as much as to the body or to the mind is ideal. To serve with heart means to be capable of being fully present and attentive, energetically generous, to be open and capable of sharing, to roll with the punches and mistakes which inevitably worm their way into situations, to have boundaries and communicate appropriately, and to care about service itself—to care about it internally as much as it is a gift to Me.
The protocol I start with is: keeping a journal. I require my subs to journal at least once after each time we see each other, and I leave it open to them to make entries more frequently. The purpose of this journal is to keep communication open between us, to give them a place to think about our time together, to critique it, to reveal their own thoughts and feelings, and to offer me something of what is hidden in our interactions: their experience, their feelings, their heart and my effect on it. It’s a way for them to be held accountable to the homework I give, and for me to read through the results of their daily practices when I assign such things. I have them keep a written account of the protocols I teach, which is useful as I don’t get to see trainees daily or even weekly sometimes. In this journal I also offer insights in response to their entries and I give homework assignments. At times I find myself very touched and inspired by what is shared with me.
[NOTE: It is the best thing in the world to inspire one’s Dominant! Though be careful how you inspire—not all reactions to inspiration may be to a sub’s benefit… 😜]
Recently I received an entry that made my week, and one that I think is fitting to share. For some background, the training session my sub is writing about was a bad day for me. Service morning had arrived and I was struggling emotionally. I decided to invite my sub on a trip to a huge gorgeous plant nursery in my area, then we got lunch together. I’m training my sub in cooking and dining service currently, so we’ve been sampling food from restaurants to critique, break down the recipes, and get inspired… By the time we were back at my place for chores to get done all seemed much better with the world. This was the journal entry I received the following week:
Dear Sir,
We walk together through the warehouse of growing things. Lost in the labyrinth of plants of all shapes, sizes, colors, and hues, i breathe deeply in the natural aroma of it all. You show me Your favorite plants, sharing what You find beautiful and special. i begin to see the forrest for the trees, and the jungle for the plants, as i look with new eyes at the things around me, sharing in Your joy and finding things of my own to admire.
We return, bellies full, to your house, where you take home small plants to feed and water and grow into thriving, brilliant, impressive houseplants. Here we connect, and water each other with stories and dreams, energy, and foot massages. As the spicy tang of sautéed asparagus and sweet flavor of mango dance in my stomach, i begin to plan which tasty treats i will prepare to add warmth and joy to this space.
Nature is a beautiful mystery. Everything exists within a symbiosis; the soil feeds the plants and the plants feed the soil. Small sprouts grow and evolve into tall trees, and all is fed by the brilliant, beautiful sun that feeds all living things as the ball of life known as the Earth spins about it. And on that ball of life, in a small one bedroom apartment in a small city, two living, growing souls embrace, feeding each other in a symbiosis, two travelers through the ups and downs and cycles of this existence.
To many more days like this.
Your sun whenever You need it,
xxx
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My sun indeed. It turns out D/s is an offering to one another, not just the game of “breaking wills” so many so-called “Dom(me)s” seem to believe it is. I left that training session uplifted, and the following week when I read this journal entry I was grateful. I was grateful for this person in my life and all they have come to be (and are continuing to become) under my tutelage. Every success of theirs I feel as a success of my own.
If you are interested in expanding your skills in Dominance, providing training to a submissive partner of your own, or want to know more about the ways Dominant partners construct D/s relationships, please join Myself and Mistress Couple for our “Dominance Development Seminar“. The next weekend intensive dates are January 24-26, 2020, and we’ll be housed in a gorgeous location in New Hampshire. The seminar is open to anyone regardless of whether you identify as a lifestyle, professional, or private player, and we’re happy to have students who are switches and even submissives who want to learn more about Dominance. I hope to see some of you there. Don’t hesitate to contact me with questions through the seminar’s application link.
I wish you and yours ever-mounting meaning and warmth this season.
Play On My Friends,
~ Creature
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