Come Out, Come Out, Wherever You Are

February 12, 2014 by
Leather Pride Flag atop the San Francisco Armory

Leather Pride Flag atop the San Francisco Armory

This week in our perspectives blog, I am asking for people to write me with their coming out kinky stories.  Having come out in my lifetime a few different times for various reasons, I know firsthand how these stories can be fascinating, moving, inspirational, educational, and transformative to the listener.  Please consider throwing your voice into the mix of people who write about their experiences.  Your perspective is uniquely yours and valuable in the world of understanding our human sexuality more intimately.

Whether you barely remember what it was like to not identify as kinky, or you still are trying to figure out if you’re kinky enough to claim anything out loud, or you’re part of all the variations in between, I want to hear your voice!

Email me at: Karin@ABCsOfKink.com and you can share your story anonymously or credited as you wish.  I am the only one who sees the email that I receive, and I’ll ask your permission and preferences before publishing.  You can also fill out the form at the end of the page, and it’ll go to the same place.

BDSM Rights Flag

BDSM Rights Flag

I look forward to learning more about the diversity of our readership, about the journeys each of you is on, and about what’s possible in the world of meaning making.  I thank you sincerely in advance!

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

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Be an ABCs contributor:  Have a story or perspective to share about kink or want to promote a kinky event?  Email Karin directly at: Karin@ABCsOfKink.com or fill out the as-anonymous-as-you-want-it-to-be feedback form below and you could see your writing published as a part of Wednesday’s “Perspectives on Kink: Conversations with the Community” blog on this site.  Don’t know what to write about?  Consider answering some of the Survey Questions I posted recently.  Happy writing, and thanks!

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Walking a Scary Line

February 5, 2014 by

 I was written recently by a reader of ABCs with some beautiful words that I’d like to share in today’s perspectives…  not only were this reader’s words very encouraging to me, I found the sentiment beautiful and spun in a way I hadn’t thought of.

So to you writer, I say thank you.  Thank you for your encouragement of my writing, and thank you for sharing your ideas, your feelings, your connection, and your own journey through this wonderful and scary world with me.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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Karin,

Your post about hoods moved me.

Your account of your first experience with a hood, of going from being in fully-reactive mode to… wanting to reach out and touch… was very moving. It reminded me of my experiences of intimacy and helped me see a yearning for more such exploration.

I also share your (or your previous) aversion to hoods in general. It helped me to start facing some more areas of my psychology where I still harbor some deep fear and insecurities when it comes to kinky play.

In fact, I’m pretty sure I put off reading that post for several days because I was afraid of the feelings it might evoke in me. Yet I started to explore this in the past year with some very unusual accessories I bought… not sure if I’d use them, but quite literally trying them on to see how I’d feel. So I’m very glad I finally read the post tonight.

You wield great power in your ability and willingness to really show yourself, vulnerability and all, in your writing (not to mention your performances as well!). Seeing you through your posts helps me see myself, too. Thank you for writing.

~ A Reader

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If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

Be an ABCs contributor:  Have a story or perspective to share about kink or want to promote a kinky event?  Email Karin directly at: Karin@ABCsOfKink.com or fill out the as-anonymous-as-you-want-it-to-be feedback form below and you could see your writing published as a part of Wednesday’s “Perspectives on Kink: Conversations with the Community” blog on this site.  Don’t know what to write about?  Consider answering some of the Survey Questions I posted recently.  Happy writing, and thanks!
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Kink List 2014

January 29, 2014 by

As we close out the first Month of 2014 I wanted to share some of the Kinky New Year Resolutions I received from people recently:

  • Create kinky art through painting/drawing
  • Have another safe 6 person orgy with my Rhode Island friends!
  • More rope bondage and how to effectively/safely apply it in scenes and sexual encounters with my partner
  • Become more comfortable with dealing pain
  • Get better at negotiations and role playing within scenes
  • Use more toys on my partner
  • Better appreciate and support my partner’s submissive side  while I continue to grow in confidence and be more loving, nurturing, caring, and Dominant
  • 2014 will be my year of butt sex (and skip to 1:00 for:  ROBOT BUTT? — Mind Blow #42)
  • Learn more about my submissive identity
  • Wax play (gotta find a good space)
  • Go to Fetishcon 2014 in Tampa, FL this year as a photographer instead of a model
  • Attend the Fetish Flea for the 1st time
  • Attend a Bound in Boston play party with my fiance
  • Go to less Sinomatic/Jaded events (feeling too old now)
  • Orgasm from breath control alone
  • Conquer my fear of certain fetish gear items
  • Chastity play
  • Go to my first kink party
  • Find a fisting partner
  • Start *doing* kink (because now I’m tied down to someone I like!)
  • Find a third partner
  • Incorporate bondage into sex
  • Tickling
  • Finish making that strap-on harness out of the materials I’ve been collecting so I can finally fuck people with it

Thank you contributors, what a lovely gorgeous naughty list!  While I hope you’re never too old to play well with others, it looks like there are a lot of different events and opportunities people have to play, learn, and experiment at this year.  And wherever you are, the Kink Fairy blesses you to go out and make it happen.  This list has given me some ideas too; I hope, Dear Readers, that all this talk of Kinky fun inspires your own desires.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

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Be an ABCs contributor:  Have a story or perspective to share about kink or want to promote a kinky event?  Email Karin directly at: Karin@ABCsOfKink.com or fill out the as-anonymous-as-you-want-it-to-be feedback form below and you could see your writing published as a part of Wednesday’s “Perspectives on Kink: Conversations with the Community” blog on this site.  Don’t know what to write about?  Consider answering some of the Survey Questions I posted recently.  Happy writing, and thanks!

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