Perspectives on Sex Work and Trafficking

Do I look Different? A photo from my first session as a professional Dominant!

I read a lot about sex work, intersectional feminism, human trafficking, sexuality education, sex toys, legalities concerning what one can do with their own body, BDSM, immigration, racial bias, policing, current scientific understanding of trans bodies and lives, health as it pertains to STIs and pregnancy, mental health, emotional growth, queerness, and how human behavior can make or break communities. I’m also a sex worker who communicates regularly with other sex workers from a variety of backgrounds and within different sectors of the industry, about our collective experiences. Recently, specifically in response to the massage parlor raid in Florida involving a high profile client, I’ve found myself joining a number of discussions with people outside sex work to explain the difference between sex work and sex trafficking. These issues are vital to understand as separate-yet-connected realities in order to pursue meaningful legislation, reduce harm, and protect the greatest number of people. It’s important that we decipher between humanitarian response and policing based on misinformation or personal morality agendas. In this article I’ve linked to a number of writings and resources which have helped me better understand these issues. Action is important, but action without understanding can make things worse—historically affecting victims, minorities, and marginalized people most destructively. We can do better. Following are some ideas about how.

1. Understand that Sex work and sex trafficking are distinct and separate issues. The media, police force, and politicians often do more harm than good when these realities are conflated. There’s also an important grey area to be delineated in this conversation concerning “survival sex workers” and their needs. Until we can decipher between these groups of people and their situational needs, legislation cannot be truly effective, and often errs on the side of harm.

2. Decriminalization vs. Legalization of sex work: This article makes a lot of really important points, and is a great read. It’s generally agreed upon by sex workers, clients, and global advocacy groups (like Amnesty International) that decriminalization is the most responsible and least harmful way to approach legislation when addressing sex work as a vocation. Some highlights in that conversation are:

  • Legalization of sex work creates separate classes of workers. The privileged class is that of sex workers who are “legally” engaged in sex work, as defined by having successfully jumped through bureaucratic hoops—which are usually not legislated in tandem with suggestions from sex workers themselves. A second lesser class of worker results from those who haven’t (for any number of reasons) successfully jumped through the bureaucratic hoops in place, and so are considered “illegal workers” and so become further vulnerable to both officials and predators. In practice, classism disproportionately negatively effects marginalized people including workers who are immigrants, PoC, trans, drug users, and survival sex workers. “Legalization” systemically favors white, cis, and less poverty stricken sex workers. It is not socially just nor an equitable route to take.
  • Partial Decriminalization (or partial legalization) includes the “Nordic model”, aka “Swedish model”, aka “what they do in Germany”. In this model the selling of sex work is decriminalized, yet the buying of sexual services remains against the law. This arrangement of criminality puts clients in the position of fearing legal retribution as they seek services which are legal to sell. This causes problems for sex workers most significantly down the line. People who are afraid of prosecution generally do not want to be vetted by workers, they are less likely to give accurate information to workers when asked, and are less likely to allow sex workers the time they need to evaluate whether or not they are a safe client to interact with. The fallout from situations like these is an increase of abuse to workers themselves, and pressure to work in less safe situations in order to receive an income.
  • Things to know about decriminalization: decriminalizing sex work does not change the status of sex trafficking. Trafficking remains illegal and is separately defined from consensual sex work.
  • Within decriminalization underage sex is still defined as sex trafficking and should be prosecuted as such.
  • Decriminalization of consensual sex work helps authorities and trafficking advocates narrow their focus and resources to those victimized by trafficking and abuse. When less time, energy, and money is wasted on adults involved in consensual sexual trade, authorities are left with more resources to seek out perpetrators of trafficking and abuse violations.
  • Decriminalization of sex work helps sex workers and victims of sex trafficking report abuse to the authorities without fear of retribution or further harm befalling them as consequence.
  • Decriminalization in the USA has already been studied, as it was decriminalized for 6 years in Rhode Island between 2003-2009. Two numbers of note that have been published about that period of time are that cases of gonorrhea went down by around 40% statewide, and police reports of rape went down by about 30%.

3. What is FOSTA/SESTA? the impact of FOSTA and SESTA on actual sex workers has been discussed since well before either bill was voted on last year. Recently there have been updates published about the fallout from these bills—and it turns out that sex workers were right about how it would effect their industries and personal safety. In addition, these bills have effected the internet as a whole, our national discourse on sexuality, and the experiences of non sex workers navigating person to person platforms such as dating websites, while increasingly dealing with censorship or placed in harm’s way.

4. Sex worker clientele: How is it possible to have a healthy and respectful relationship with service providers? Sex work is an issue which involves many communities of people, and clients are as much a part of the conversation as sex workers are. There are as many reasons why clients seek out the help of sex workers as there are clients. There are as many reasons to become a sex worker as there are workers.

So, why are we making this issue largely about women and victims (frequently framing women most comfortably as victims too)? Consider that men (and clients who are not men) comprise an important half of this discussion. We cannot meaningfully talk about the needs of workers and/or how to help people who are victimized by trafficking, if we can’t accept the reality that these situations stem from the needs or desires of actual people first. In this era of “me too” it’s vitally important to be having conversations about how the patriarchy and toxic definitions of masculinity hurt all of us regardless of gender, sex, or which side of the provider/client/victim-of-violence slash one finds themself on.

5. It’s important to acknowledge that white people and cis straight men disproportionately profit off industries which fetishize people of color and other marginalized people. This is evident in the sex industry too. This is evident when we assume immigrants and people of color are automatically victims of trafficking, or call for clients to hire what amounts to white women or well-off providers in order to be “socially responsible clients”. This is evident when we don’t rise up and call bullshit when black and brown strippers are paid less, given worse shifts, and hired less frequently than white workers are. This is evident when we automatically decide that third parties (“pimps”, booking agents, agency owners, etc.) never have the safety and welfare of sex workers in mind, rather than digging deeper into what different demographics of workers prefer or need individually. This also gets into whether or not we trust and believe marginalized people when they tell us about their lives.

6. After learning about these issues one may be left feeling lost as to what to do. There are many ways to help effect change. From discussing what you’ve learned with the people around you, to not tolerating derogatory statements which objectify sex workers or demonize their clients when voiced by friends, co-workers, and family. Volunteering for the sex work advocacy or end-human-trafficking organization you feel most connected to is a solid start, as is writing your elected officials.

Consider whether or not you think these issues are ones which pertain to you, your friends, family, associates, or people whose struggles you care to acknowledge. We’re all connected. We each play a part.

7. Sex work isn’t just something other people engage in—if you’ve ever watched porn you’re part of the tapestry depicting how sexuality and capitalism effect us all. As an exercise: think about why you might be interested in (or turn to) pornography, erotica, strip clubs, cam rooms, phone sex, professional Dominants/submissives/switches, instructional books and video, sex therapists, sex surrogates, sensual and/or sexual massage providers, sexological body workers, full service sex workers, sacred sexuality guides, escorts, sugar relationships, swinger’s clubs, live sex performances, commercial dungeons, sex and kink conventions, or any other iteration of paid (or often unpaid—be aware of what this also means) assistance catering to your sexual impulses or desires. Sex work is work. I’m sure you can easily list a number of common reasons people pay for sex and sex adjacent services. Prioritize access to safe and respectful spaces for sex workers to provide. Protect the bulk of our resources in doing so. Prosecute traffickers and those who abuse.

The very ways we depict, legislate, and police these interconnected concerns must be more transparently examined, and they must change.

Play On My Friends,
~ Creature

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The Many Faces of Bondage

The first book I have work published in!

Tonight I will be performing in Troy, NY at the Berlin, 7-9pm, for the book release party of “The Ultimate Guide to Bondage” by Mistress Couple (Cleis Press). I’m really excited to participate in this event and celebrate my friend’s first book. It is also the first book a contribution of mine has been published in! I’ll probably buy a bunch of copies to sell, so if you’re interested in getting one directly from me, let me know and I’ll put an order in.

What I love about this book is that it’s not only (or even primarily) about rope. Mistress Couple takes the reader on a trip through history, various cultures, and different modes of bondage to explore and celebrate the theme. “The Ultimate Guide to Bondage” offers tutorials in each subject, and includes a number of stories shared by BDSM practitioners about their own experiences with each type of “B” in BDSM. The story I authored is a retelling of my first time in predicament bondage. It was fun, nerve wracking, it tested my limits, and ultimately led to a better understanding of myself… I’ll leave it there for now. You’ll have to pick the book up to read the rest.

Bondage is rope, bondage is relational, bondage is fashion, bondage is a personal challenge, bondage is a choice, an agreement, a sexual preference, even spiritually awakening. Bondage is so much more than the act of doing “the rope and handcuff thing”. It is pleasure, pain, and the angst we continue to get mired in, learn from, and struggle against as we grow. Bondage is life. “The Ultimate guide to Bondage” brings dimension to the scope and variety of ways one can explore their interest in this deep, ultimately primal, subject.

I hope you check the book out, and please do contact me if you’d like to buy a copy directly. I’ll even sign it if you wish.

Play On My Friends,
~ Creature

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Safer Sex in the Age of PrEP

I started taking PrEP. As a person in queer and trans communities I’ve had sex with bisexual, gay, and straight identifying men who have sex with other men. These people comprise a higher risk group when it comes to HIV transmission. Lately my tendency is sex with partners I’m not regularly involved with. People I’m intimate with have sex lives I know little about, as might their other partners, and so on. I engage in the occasional blood play scene, and teach play piercing. Even though I’m not regularly (or frequently) sexually active, PrEP seems a fair precaution to take. HIV is one of the STIs* I’d like to place further from reach.

If a condom broke, didn’t get used, or I was put at risk in another manner, I can take an injection or pill to clear up Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and Syphilis. I’ve already had my Hepatitis B vaccinations, and I test positive for HSV 1 which I contracted 20 years ago when someone went down on me. In the past I’ve tested positive for HPV (which they don’t test AMAB people for), and a significant portion of the population is positive with this virus already. Until the HPV vaccine is affordably available to people over 20-something years old, HIV is the unaccounted for STI that I can do something about in a prophylactic manner. As for pregnancy, it just so happens that the assigned male at birth (AMAB) partners I have who are semi-regular (therefore more likely to engage in unprotected sex with) have all had vasectomies. I’m also on Testosterone which makes it harder (though not impossible) to conceive.

I screen for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) every three months and whenever else might seem appropriate. Probably the number one thing I do to avoid STI transmission though, is have “the talk” with each person I hook up with before we engage in risky behavior. I run through my history with STIs, share my most recent test results, bring up any risky behaviors or new partners I’ve engaged with since my last test, and answer whatever questions they have for me. Then I ask for that same information from my playmate. I’m astounded that approximately 95% of the time I’m the one to bring this conversation up, and a lot of people say they’ve never had this conversation before. Happily, most of the people I chat with get tested relatively regularly and can speak to their histories and experiences. If after the conversation we don’t feel like engaging in risky contact, there’s always mutual masturbation, and other safe forms of intimacy which don’t risk exposure, but feel sexy and great!

Being the sex nerd I am, I wondered to what extent PrEP actually protects me, and in doing research I found out I’m not in the same situation as AMAB people who take it. This is a complicated bit of research to chase reliable information down about. The recommendation to wait 7 days after starting PrEP applies to receptive anal intercourse only. If you’re interested in vaginal intercourse the recommendation increases from a week to 20-30 days. Similarly, while PrEP boasts being around 90% effective for receptive anal intercourse exposure, there is only about a 70% rate of effectiveness for intravenous drug users, and nothing I can find which specifically addresses exposure from receptive vaginal intercourse. It seems generally to be agreed upon that receptive vaginal intercourse is a more risky activity than receptive anal intercourse.

A lot of people believe (and it’s advertised as such) that PrEP is 99% effective. That number was found specifically amongst gay men in a controlled study, yet those findings have not been replicated en mass in the real world. When PrEP is used correctly, in conjunction with condoms, and limiting one’s number of sex partners, it seems as though its effectiveness is closer to 90%. Among gay men who do not regularly use condoms and who do not limit their sex partners the rate of effectiveness is closer to 86%. I find it frustrating that I cannot get a clear account of PrEP’s effectiveness for people who regularly engage in receptive vaginal sex.

There is at least one rare strain of HIV which is resistant to PrEP and has infected at least two people in the past couple years who were on PrEP. One other person reported contracting a non-resistant strain of HIV after having unprotected sex with multiple partners while on PrEP, even though he tested with appropriate levels of the drug in his system. He was reported to have had unprotected sex with a high number of people, and to have contracted Chlamydia and/or Gonorrhea a couple of times during the period in question. So, what does this add up to?

In short, it’s very important to test for HIV before you take PrEP. If you are already infected, the regular and continued use of PrEP can develop a drug resistant strain of HIV within your own body, which might then potentially infect partners. This is also why it’s important for people taking PrEP to be tested every 3 months, and to take their medication regularly and without fail. Aside from continued use of condoms in conjunction with proper PrEP use, the recommendation to limit one’s sexual partners seems a reasonable precaution as well. There is little information about exactly what factors should be considered when looking at the case of the person who contracted a normal strain of HIV while on PrEP. Was it the number of partners he had, or the number of potential virus types his body may have been contending with that led PrEP to fail? Was is the sheer amount of sexual activity he was engaging in, leading to more micro-tearing of his anal tissue and increased access to the bloodstream? Could it be that other STI infections he contracted lowered his resistance to HIV? Or it might it be something else entirely? So far that data is not available.

Theories on safety: Getting tested for STIs regularly is important for one’s sexual health. Period. I like to think about regular testing as a form of self care which is also community care. This is an ethic I have in mind when I find I’ve tested positive for an STI. If I consider talking about STIs as self and community care, it helps me gather up courage to contact anyone I might have exposed or been exposed by, in order to let them know they should get tested and/or seek treatment. Talking frankly to past and present partners about sexual behavior and STIs is a responsibility of mine as a sexually active individual, and as a loving individual.

I know many people struggle with the courage or language to talk about sex frankly. In situations where one feels guilt or shame, it can be doubly hard to make that happen. It takes practice to speak openly about sexual health in general, and when fear or shame enters the equation silence can easily win out. Unfortunately silence perpetuates the spread of disease. If you enjoy someone enough — even for an hour — to risk STI infection with them, consider linking that enjoyment to the resilience demanded in order to call them a month or two down the line if an STI shows up positive on your test.

Speaking of STIs should not be linked with finger pointing or shaming. Just like we don’t stigmatize a friend, coworker, or loved one who may have given us a cold. Speaking honestly about STIs could merely be seen as an act of care-taking and routine sexual responsibility. If every person treated for an STI waited the recommended amount of time to become sexually active after, and shared their status with past and present partners, the dividing and multiplying paths leading others to risk would diminish considerably.

Access to regular STI testing is an important factor in keeping individuals STI free, and so keeping the number of infections significantly lower in communities. Easy and affordable access to STI treatment is an important factor in keeping spread of illness down as well. Unfortunately these two very simple and obvious access points to sexual health are absolutely impacted by wealth in the United States. People who can afford healthcare, who get tested regularly, and who are better educated about their risk factors, are more likely to both avoid STIs and get treated in a timely manner if they do not. This helps the spread of STIs minimize in their communities.

If access to testing, access to treatment, and comprehensive sexuality education are what help a society lower certain types of illness, why is it that those things are so hard to come by equally for all people in this country? It seems our sexually repressive social mores are, in fact, an undeniable contributor to the survival and prevalence of sexual disease. It is no coincidence that better sexuality education, better healthcare, and better access to wellness resources are available to those who are wealthier. It follows that these things are not simply about education and access, they are 100% about class.

What can we all do? Probably the easiest thing that anyone and everyone can do in order to make informed decisions about what risks we’re taking with our own bodies and the bodies of our loved ones, is to get comfortable talking about our sexual histories with everyone we come into sexual contact with. Talking about sex is free and all it requires is that you have courage, that you share facts, and that you ask questions. It’s important to consider whether or not you trust the person you’re speaking with, and that you take sexuality education into our own hands by learning about risk factors for various STIs and methods of lowering those risks.

There are lots of sexual and sensual activities anyone can enjoy if you decide you don’t want to risk your health with a particular partner. From less risky heavy petting, to making sure you use appropriate barrier methods (condoms, gloves, dental dams, etc), to sensual and BDSM activities which don’t require fluid exchange, to mutual masturbation, and safe use of toys.

The math: Consider that some people (AMAB people especially) can be asymptomatic for STIs they carry, or might test false negative more frequently. Consider that it can take up to three months (or more) for enough bacteria to be built up in a person’s system to test positive for certain STIs. Consider that many patients are not given “multiple location tests” for Chlamydia, and so while they may test negative from a urine sample they may still be infected anally or orally with that bacteria. Consider that patients are often not coached on how to appropriately take a “dirty” urine sample, instructed not to drink anything, or pee for at least two hours prior to testing — all which can provide a more accurate sample for certain urine tests.

I don’t consider my testing completely “up to date” if I’ve had risky sex leading up to 3 months before my last test. Of course I sigh a breath of relief and emotionally consider myself negative when that’s what my stats say, but in the back of my head I know there’s a possibility that the person I slept with a month prior to testing could well have infected me with something which hasn’t shown up yet. I consider three months to be an appropriate amount of time between testings, and it’s an interval which many sexually active and non-monogamous people generally agree upon. In addition to that, I make sure I get tested after leaving a long term or monogamous relationship, as I’m more likely to have had unprotected sex with that person, and end-of-relationship times are culturally notorious for overlap of undisclosed sexual activities. If I feel symptomatic of anything, especially if I’ve recently had sex with someone new, I don’t wait until my three months are up, I get tested. Some people also wait to have sex with a new partner until they’ve both been freshly updated with recent tests. I enjoy going to a clinic with a partner, it feels supportive and freeing.

I hope this blog has given you some new things to think about when it comes to sexual health and safety. I hope it encourages you to talk with sexy people about all of these things. I hope if you haven’t gotten tested recently you’ll find a place nearby and update your stats, or have an in-depth and accurate conversation with your Doctor about your actual sexual behavior and potential risks for STI transmission. In most areas you can find free STI clinics, some of which offer anonymous resources as well. Consider asking exactly what they are testing you for, as some sites offer testing for only a limited number of STIs rather than the full gamut. As I already know my ongoing HSV, HPV, and Hep C stats, I prefer to update my Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, HIV, and Syphilis tests each time, making sure I’m offered a throat and anal swab in addition to my urine (or cervical) sample for accurate Chlamydia results.

May we all become better at talking about sex openly and without judgement or shame, and accessing the help we need for ourselves, our loved ones, and our communities.

*STI stands for “Sexually Transmitted Infections”, which is a more up to date term than “STD” these days. The word “infection” carries with it less stigma than “disease”. Similarly, when speaking of one’s STI test results it’s more appropriate to say “negative” than “clean”. Cleanliness has nothing to do with STI status and contributes to the feeling of stigma and alienation when one finds out they are positive for an STI, which further incentivizes people not to speak freely and accurately about their sexual histories and status. 

Play On My Friends,
~ Creature

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