ABCs Of Kink

Puppetry Takes Over Schedule…

February 7, 2014 by ABCs Of Kink

Hello wonderful readers! Since last we “ABC’d is for…” a LOT has taken place. Little (or perhaps not) known fact: I perform as a professional storyteller and puppeteer at times. I have, in fact, toured the country as such and owned my very own major-award-nominated puppet company.

To make a short story shorter, I am going out on a three month tour as a puppeteer, and the date I leave is (drum roll please!): TOMORROW!

Wish me well, my friends. I shall not, lovely creatures, leave you in the dust, no. Not at all. My writing will still be published from the road. Unfortunately this week, as the puppeting opportunity came up mere days ago and I’ve been scrambling to meet deadlines and learn script lines and other such nonsense, I shall be asking you to tune back in on Monday for the blog in general, and wait until next Friday for “L is for…”.

Thank you for bearing with me, and I’ll see you soon from the road!

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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~Thank you.

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Walking a Scary Line

February 5, 2014 by ABCs Of Kink

I was written recently by a reader of ABCs with some beautiful words that I’d like to share in today’s perspectives… not only were this reader’s words very encouraging to me, I found the sentiment beautiful and spun in a way I hadn’t thought of.

So to you writer, I say thank you. Thank you for your encouragement of my writing, and thank you for sharing your ideas, your feelings, your connection, and your own journey through this wonderful and scary world with me.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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Karin,

Your post about hoods moved me.

Your account of your first experience with a hood, of going from being in fully-reactive mode to… wanting to reach out and touch… was very moving. It reminded me of my experiences of intimacy and helped me see a yearning for more such exploration.

I also share your (or your previous) aversion to hoods in general. It helped me to start facing some more areas of my psychology where I still harbor some deep fear and insecurities when it comes to kinky play.

In fact, I’m pretty sure I put off reading that post for several days because I was afraid of the feelings it might evoke in me. Yet I started to explore this in the past year with some very unusual accessories I bought… not sure if I’d use them, but quite literally trying them on to see how I’d feel. So I’m very glad I finally read the post tonight.

You wield great power in your ability and willingness to really show yourself, vulnerability and all, in your writing (not to mention your performances as well!). Seeing you through your posts helps me see myself, too. Thank you for writing.

~ A Reader

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~Thank you.

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Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

February 3, 2014 by ABCs Of Kink

Sensing

New musk.

Accustomed to something less or more or sweeter or heavy… This and that tossed around and I’m blind to the meaning of you in my life. The feeling is grey fog and sweet quiet wondering. Want grafted painfully to restraint. I’m willing not to know, but still struggle behind my eyes, wiggle in my seat, calm the urge to spring towards your body, a rabid animal. You watch my watching and take it personally a little bit. Uncomfortable shifting around. My mind wanders to things that entertain…

I want to taste the shape of your smell, round and spicy, red wine dripping down my esophagus staining the space behind my breastbone, and wetting everything on the way to center.

I am sense-drunk. These moments are relaxing and relaxing is something I don’t trust. But I’m resolved; I won’t wrestle you. I want to bask. Slip your skin over mine like bike leathers for warmth. safety. pleasure. Your value in skins: Connection.

Hair prickling, cunt throbbing, gut satisfying, emotion stoking, heat generating, connection…

And sitting with myself is the prize at the end of the day.

And it is the pain of umbilical cord sliced through.

Connection. Together. Alone.

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I was briefly involved with someone once who was in a “don’t ask, don’t tell” relationship. Normally this type of thing doesn’t fly with me, I’m the type who wants to meet your primary partner and maybe even other partners before jumping into bed or complicated emotional unfoldings. But this situation was different… When we met there was an instant connection and my playmate told me the story of his very long term relationship, and how they had come to decide that a don’t ask don’t tell arrangement was best for everyone involved. I trusted the story and connected with this person over a period of a few months sporadically.

It was fun for a while. But over time it grew sour, on my end mostly I believe. Thing is, I think that because this person didn’t really practice open communication at home, there was no precedent for open communication to be a part of any relationship they were having… And it turns out that doesn’t work for me.

Time passed and we fell off with one another. I still appreciate the time we had together while it was good, but my lesson is learned in this arena: I want people practiced in the art of negotiation and communication in my bed (and shower and hotel floor). We have a longer shelf life and it’s filled with more variety, less angst, and though we’re always autonomous people choosing one another at the end of the day, I like to know that my choices can tell me all of what’s on their minds. I want to know these things because they value me, and because they value the telling.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

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