N is for NEEDLES

Hypodermic needles by Intropin

Hypodermic needles by Intropin

Would you like to try some needle play?  How do  you feel about play piercing?  Wanna use my sharps later?  Can I poke you!?  These are all questions you might hear if you’re interested (or you partner is) in having holes put temporarily in your body.  Play piercing is a type of activity some people consider edge play, though I find it remains a pretty common and enjoyable pastime for sadists, masochists, body modifiers, and the simply curious alike.  People who play with needles get a lot of different things out of the activity, let’s explore a little further…

Why needles?  People who talk about why they like play piercing often talk about endorphins.  It’s an activity that tends to release endorphins pretty quickly without a lot of time or focus needed to get things going that way.  Many who are into play piercing also mention how much they value the connection, energy play, or emotional attachments they might experience.  It can be a profound and intense type of play to undergo, a spiritual one, calming, centering, grounding, exciting, orgasmic, frightening, overwhelming, bonding, unexpected, the list goes on.  If you’ve had a part of your body pierced before you have a little idea of what play piercing might be like, if not the concept may seem bizarre or scary.  Regardless, if you’re interested in the experience, I highly recommend trying it out with a trustworthy and experienced partner.

Prep ideas:  You might have already guessed this is an activity that requires a higher degree of safety considerations than some other kink activities.  Among these you will want to consider hygiene, skin prep, needle gauge, number of needles and amount of time it will take to complete the planned task, needle placement according to anatomy and presentation, the sterility of your environment and tools, health risks, appropriate used needle disposal, pain processing techniques, and clear ongoing communication.  Before sticking someone (and possibly yourself) with a sharp object TAKE A CLASS IN THE SUBJECT.  That is the clearest advice I can offer.

Negotiation points to hit:  As you can imagine, negotiation when you are about to be a pin cushion/make someone a pin cushion is import and thoughtfulness, thoroughness, and really great communication are key.  Aftercare is an important point to hit, as are a lot of the general negotiation basics, but there are some points that are specific to needles and blood play that you want to make sure you cover.  Both the poker and pokee should talk about their situations concerning many of these:  know if your partner has any blood borne diseases – what were the last dates and results of any testing they’ve had done, what risk factors apply to their lives?  Ask about other health issues too: diabetes, asthma, hemophilia, medications they may be on like blood thinners, know whether your partner is sober!  This is not a mode of play for the even slightly inebriated for reasons of good judgement, because of a need for clear feedback on sensation, and the higher than average risk of bleeding heavily.  Know if the person has any idea about how they’ll react to being pierced psychologically, emotionally, and physically.  Be able to guide the bottom in breathing techniques and pace play for adequate pain processing.  Make sure that the bottom knows that if they call safe word in the middle of a piercing session that it will still take a little while to undo all the work that’s been done – the situation of the scene will not magically just evaporate in a second, and though the undoing can be done quickly, efficiently, and with regard to a lack of further agony being inflicted, it will still take some time and attention before being fully released.  Make sure you talk about the lasting marks that needles leave.  They will probably not be permanent scars, though there will be marks visible for a few days after play.  These are just some considerations.  I encourage you to do your research and think about more.

My first endorphin button! A lot of fun.

My first endorphin button! A lot of fun.

The holes in my body:  Well, I have a few of them.  Some are designed by nature, others self-imposed.  My first experience with needles was at an event years ago where a local performance artist was pierced with a number of needles on stage during a show I was also performing in.  I was mesmerized and drawn to the piece, and figured right there that I wanted to experience that some day.  I got my chance almost exactly a year ago during my first ever kink scene.  The person I was playing with and I had been playing for about 5 hours that evening and we ended the night with play piercing as our final stop.  I loved it.  You can imagine at that point I was pretty exhausted, but I was also very relaxed.  There was no resistance to the activity and I found myself not only calm, but loving the sensations, surprised that it was as easy as it seemed to be, and definitely struck by endorphins.  One of the things I like most about play piercing is that it is so connected to breath.  To pain process, to fear process, and to pierce evenly and confidently the piercer and the piercee will use breath to guide when to push a needle in or pull one out.  It makes the rhythm of what’s happening a beautiful and connected experience as well as one that leaves you with a feeling of accomplishment…  Before the evening ended I had 13 needles in my right breast arranged into an “endorphin button” – meaning laid over one another so that when it was pushed on it would cause a certain amount of pain which released endorphins.  I had another few sharps piercing my outer labia, a couple laced multiple times through my left breast, and one stuck extremely painfully, half-jokingly, and very briefly into the arch of my foot.  It was a blast and I would repeat the experience without hesitation.  After that session I was absolutely afloat with beautiful fuzzy warm endorphin laced feelings (though after 5 hours of play I don’t know what else I might have been feeling?).  I have a special place in my heart for the activity to say the least.

Where can I learn more?  Good for you!!!  This is definitely a game in kink that you want an experienced and well informed top performing.  It helps to have a well informed bottom in this activity too – don’t shy away from speaking out if you see something play out in an unsafe manner in your scene.  By agreeing to do activities many consider edge play, you should also be agreeing to be more stringent in your technique, communication, and expectations.  I definitely recommend Kink Academy for further education in this subject.  There are a bunch of videos up about safety, negotiation, and what to be thinking about when playing with sharps, as well as videos on how to do it and more on what people feel.  Fetlife is also a great way to find classes on the subject, learn more, and get support from the community of people who love it.  You can’t do enough reading, writing, and sticking oranges in your pursuit of the perfect prick…  and at some point getting really great about your negotiation methods and jumping in is the only way to get the experience and confidence you need to be a great play piercer/needle aficionado/sharps wielder!  Good luck sticking it to the bottom; I hope everyone gets what they came in for.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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DIY with the DR.

X-Ray Circuit Board retouched by Emdee

X-Ray Circuit Board retouched by Emdee

I came across this webpage in my adventures online relatively recently, and thought I should share it, curious readers:  X. Treme Orgasmatronics Inc. presents “The HackOff”.

What this is, for those who would rather read my writing than follow a link, is a circuit board that allows you to hack into most vibrators and program them to do various different actions that they don’t already do.  Things like pulse at various speeds or in different patterns.  Very exciting stuff for those like me who enjoy knowing all the things all the time and getting more involved in sex geekery.

It’s pretty cheap, just $19.99; you do need a few basic tools, a computer, a compatible toy…, the full list can be found alongside a great video that shows you how to do it all step by step.

This company and the people behind it are really fun.  I enjoyed romping through the website and with a tag line like “Less Pants, More Science”, how can you possibly go wrong?

Let me know what you think; I hope today’s perspective on kink has brought new blush to the creative corner of your sexy minds…

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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~Thank you.

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Homework

Good Day My Lovelies!

I apologize for the late posting.  Being on the road I have limited access to the internet, and now that I’m on the West Coast my timing as allll off…  But, here goes, enjoy my Monday Brains!

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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Photo by Marmotoons

Photo by Marmotoons

Dear X,

You asked for me to write you with three scenes I would like to see transpire between us sexually/kinkily/fancifully – things for us to share with one another experientially.  I will admit that there are many things that I would love to see us do, and there are a great deal of activities that I would like to repeat that we’ve already brushed against or tried to tackle…  However, in the nature of starting somewhere, I offer you the three I have selected today, in no particular order:

~  I have a love for clothespins that goes beyond most toy and sensation interests.  Perhaps it is because I was raised in the country always with a clothesline at the ready, and those pins were both a chore and a game.  Perhaps it is because when I first discovered intentional pain play my partner used this cheap and easy tool for the experimentation.  Perhaps it is because I am an intensely visual woman, and my turn-ons include looking at artistic photography of people in compromising, unbelievable, and challenging positions, and when I worked as a book buyer at a sex store I would spend my bored minutes pouring over the books about pain threshold play enjoying photos of needles, hooks, and people turned into human porcupines with clothespins – people given wings and domino-like trails across their bodies for the pleasure of the designer, the model, the photographer, and eventually myself, the observer.  I would like to know how many pins can be trailed along my body parts, for you to turn my curves and soft skin into three dimensional, kinesthetically punishing art.  I look forward to my slow and painful release at the end, to exhaustion, deep breaths, your tongue and soft hands exploring my sore bits, and your mouth on mine.

~  Your voice turns me on when you are commanding and clear about your own intent and desires.  There is an unapologetic frankness in your tone when you are turned on and telling me exactly what you would like for me to be doing that sends all questions, all arguments, and any extraneous thoughts out the window bringing my brain and instincts clearly into the moment.  I want to be good for you in those moments.  I want to be exactly what you need for further inspiration and play.  I would like to encourage space for that confidence to grow in you.  Thinking about this turn-on further, I would like for you to plan an evening out or prepare space for your desires to play out as you wish them to before we meet.  I would like to know I am walking into your space, your plan, your evening earlier in the day.  I would like to know in advance how to prepare myself (body, mind, heart, headspace).  I would like to come to you willing.

~  Taking a few classes in rope bondage is an activity I would like to share with you.  I know rope is a new interest of yours, and I would like for you to have the practice and understanding to tie me as you wish, to pour the intention and detail into your work that I know you enjoy in the endeavors that make you happiest.  You are a geek at heart and it is one of the things I love and respect most about you (not to mention one of the things that gets me going most easily when you express your knowledge and passion about whatever subject you know a lot about when it’s at hand).  I am happy to be your bottom during class, though if you would rather find a group of your own to grow legs in outside my presence, I understand.  If you would like me to attend with you as a compromise to that process, you can direct me to be silent as you learn in your own way and on your on terms (I know how vulnerable the learning process can be).

There are a million more ideas I have, though these are the first three to reach out and grab me.  I look forward to our continued play, passion, growth, love, and understanding of one another as we figure out what this relationship is; what these dynamics amount to in our hearts and practices.  You make me smile, my love, you make me flutter.  I hope this letter finds you satisfied and inspired.

~ Yours.

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