Decoupage

I want you to cut me.  Not with a big heavy broad chef’s knife, or the dagger looking so beautiful and mean, but the small thin, delicate one.  The one that separates clouds from the sky, kittens from their window perches, and little girls holding flowers from the meadow behind,  I want the knife that can free anything at all from it’s steadily monotonizing environment, allowing new context in our rearrangement.

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Photo by David Aquilina

If you trace lines along the sides of my body that will fit perfectly in a cage, I am yours forever skulking around between these bars.  Should you shape me into a flying monkey’s form, I’ll fetch your broom and wait silent for your next move.  If I’m to be a battleground, I wait for soldiers to nestle themselves into my curves at night and dream of safety blanketed by my scent.  And if I am me, walking on the ocean’s surface toward the dawn, I’ll feel your hands and warm breath at my back.

I want you to cut me.  Shape me into pieces and scenes that are surprising and delight.  I’ll be your monster, your favorite shirt, your washer woman, your mechanic, your blanket, your paper, and your pet.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

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N is for NEEDLES

Hypodermic needles by Intropin

Hypodermic needles by Intropin

Would you like to try some needle play?  How do  you feel about play piercing?  Wanna use my sharps later?  Can I poke you!?  These are all questions you might hear if you’re interested (or you partner is) in having holes put temporarily in your body.  Play piercing is a type of activity some people consider edge play, though I find it remains a pretty common and enjoyable pastime for sadists, masochists, body modifiers, and the simply curious alike.  People who play with needles get a lot of different things out of the activity, let’s explore a little further…

Why needles?  People who talk about why they like play piercing often talk about endorphins.  It’s an activity that tends to release endorphins pretty quickly without a lot of time or focus needed to get things going that way.  Many who are into play piercing also mention how much they value the connection, energy play, or emotional attachments they might experience.  It can be a profound and intense type of play to undergo, a spiritual one, calming, centering, grounding, exciting, orgasmic, frightening, overwhelming, bonding, unexpected, the list goes on.  If you’ve had a part of your body pierced before you have a little idea of what play piercing might be like, if not the concept may seem bizarre or scary.  Regardless, if you’re interested in the experience, I highly recommend trying it out with a trustworthy and experienced partner.

Prep ideas:  You might have already guessed this is an activity that requires a higher degree of safety considerations than some other kink activities.  Among these you will want to consider hygiene, skin prep, needle gauge, number of needles and amount of time it will take to complete the planned task, needle placement according to anatomy and presentation, the sterility of your environment and tools, health risks, appropriate used needle disposal, pain processing techniques, and clear ongoing communication.  Before sticking someone (and possibly yourself) with a sharp object TAKE A CLASS IN THE SUBJECT.  That is the clearest advice I can offer.

Negotiation points to hit:  As you can imagine, negotiation when you are about to be a pin cushion/make someone a pin cushion is import and thoughtfulness, thoroughness, and really great communication are key.  Aftercare is an important point to hit, as are a lot of the general negotiation basics, but there are some points that are specific to needles and blood play that you want to make sure you cover.  Both the poker and pokee should talk about their situations concerning many of these:  know if your partner has any blood borne diseases – what were the last dates and results of any testing they’ve had done, what risk factors apply to their lives?  Ask about other health issues too: diabetes, asthma, hemophilia, medications they may be on like blood thinners, know whether your partner is sober!  This is not a mode of play for the even slightly inebriated for reasons of good judgement, because of a need for clear feedback on sensation, and the higher than average risk of bleeding heavily.  Know if the person has any idea about how they’ll react to being pierced psychologically, emotionally, and physically.  Be able to guide the bottom in breathing techniques and pace play for adequate pain processing.  Make sure that the bottom knows that if they call safe word in the middle of a piercing session that it will still take a little while to undo all the work that’s been done – the situation of the scene will not magically just evaporate in a second, and though the undoing can be done quickly, efficiently, and with regard to a lack of further agony being inflicted, it will still take some time and attention before being fully released.  Make sure you talk about the lasting marks that needles leave.  They will probably not be permanent scars, though there will be marks visible for a few days after play.  These are just some considerations.  I encourage you to do your research and think about more.

My first endorphin button! A lot of fun.

My first endorphin button! A lot of fun.

The holes in my body:  Well, I have a few of them.  Some are designed by nature, others self-imposed.  My first experience with needles was at an event years ago where a local performance artist was pierced with a number of needles on stage during a show I was also performing in.  I was mesmerized and drawn to the piece, and figured right there that I wanted to experience that some day.  I got my chance almost exactly a year ago during my first ever kink scene.  The person I was playing with and I had been playing for about 5 hours that evening and we ended the night with play piercing as our final stop.  I loved it.  You can imagine at that point I was pretty exhausted, but I was also very relaxed.  There was no resistance to the activity and I found myself not only calm, but loving the sensations, surprised that it was as easy as it seemed to be, and definitely struck by endorphins.  One of the things I like most about play piercing is that it is so connected to breath.  To pain process, to fear process, and to pierce evenly and confidently the piercer and the piercee will use breath to guide when to push a needle in or pull one out.  It makes the rhythm of what’s happening a beautiful and connected experience as well as one that leaves you with a feeling of accomplishment…  Before the evening ended I had 13 needles in my right breast arranged into an “endorphin button” – meaning laid over one another so that when it was pushed on it would cause a certain amount of pain which released endorphins.  I had another few sharps piercing my outer labia, a couple laced multiple times through my left breast, and one stuck extremely painfully, half-jokingly, and very briefly into the arch of my foot.  It was a blast and I would repeat the experience without hesitation.  After that session I was absolutely afloat with beautiful fuzzy warm endorphin laced feelings (though after 5 hours of play I don’t know what else I might have been feeling?).  I have a special place in my heart for the activity to say the least.

Where can I learn more?  Good for you!!!  This is definitely a game in kink that you want an experienced and well informed top performing.  It helps to have a well informed bottom in this activity too – don’t shy away from speaking out if you see something play out in an unsafe manner in your scene.  By agreeing to do activities many consider edge play, you should also be agreeing to be more stringent in your technique, communication, and expectations.  I definitely recommend Kink Academy for further education in this subject.  There are a bunch of videos up about safety, negotiation, and what to be thinking about when playing with sharps, as well as videos on how to do it and more on what people feel.  Fetlife is also a great way to find classes on the subject, learn more, and get support from the community of people who love it.  You can’t do enough reading, writing, and sticking oranges in your pursuit of the perfect prick…  and at some point getting really great about your negotiation methods and jumping in is the only way to get the experience and confidence you need to be a great play piercer/needle aficionado/sharps wielder!  Good luck sticking it to the bottom; I hope everyone gets what they came in for.

To Breath and Being,
~ Karin

If you like my blog, please check out my Patreon Page and consider supporting me, or just click here: Support the Artist

~Thank you.

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Where I Am

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This is where I am
Here

In the present moment
I am in this very room with you
Do not be so foolish
As to take my statement for granted

The moment has never existed before
This is the first room
The room with windows

Windows I am not flying out of

There are escape hatches in my mind
Walk the hallways, brain twists right and left
You’ll see my many outs
Trapdoors, portals, windows, mouse holes, rotating library walls, curtains behind which the Bermuda Triangle takes her prisoners
And Siren songs whisper at each
I am pieced together corridors in a busy hotel, the rooms small and many
Just an inch or two away, through the thin skin of every cheaply made door
A different scenario awaits
Ready to trap my present being
Hide her in a place you cannot reach
And you might not see (these peepholes go but one way)
Behind my eyes these other sides

When you strike me, I breathe
The white heat of bite, fist grabbing hair, musk smell and instinct understood
Rabid primal intent
Without taking you have every drop
I open my lungs and concentrate
Breath is silence and immediate Now
Connection
You have plied me with play instead of bed
And listen
Encourage concoctions that keep me present
Spin a wheel made out of toys we’ve both been wanting to try
Games we think might work
Broken-in leathers that you know already fit
Reaching for ridiculous perfection in the outrageous play of our making
These illicit interactions have been placed in the public square of my mind
Daemons watching from peepholes an inch or two beyond our reach turn away frustrated, forgotten this time

So I came
And stayed
And we breathed together
Played
Here in this room
All the windows looking in on us this time
This first room
The room with windows
Windows I am not flying out of

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To Breath and Being,
~ By Karin Webb

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~Thank you.

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